How to Choose the Right Mediator for You

How to Choose the Right Mediator for You

Divorce can be a downright uncomfortable process in the best of circumstances. A mediator can make the process simpler by helping you and your soon-to-be ex-spouse negotiate an equitable settlement. Mediators are unbiased, professional and specifically trained to help you both come to an agreement, but finding the right one to help you through this process can be tricky. Here are some tips for how to choose a mediator who is qualified, experienced and knowledgeable.

 

Start by Doing Your Research

The number one tip is to find an individual whom you respect, like, and trust to handle your matter. This person should be knowledgeable about mediation, but also professional and unbiased when negotiating. Start by doing some research about your local options. Find out where the office is located, the associated fees, and research the typical issues involved with choosing the right mediator for your particular situation.

 

Seek Referrals and Recommendations

One of the best ways to find the best mediator is by word of mouth. Mental health professionals as well as trusted advisors and friends should be able to offer suggestions.

 

Ask Plenty of Questions

Once you have your list narrowed down, or have one or two individuals in mind, it’s time to start asking specific questions. A good mediator will be happy to oblige and answer any questions you may want to know. Set up a time to meet with him or her to ask about training, certifications, experience, and how long he or she has been practicing.

 

Find Out His or Her Mediation Expertise

Find out how many divorces he or she has mediated, and if there are any references you can contact for referrals and advice. Divorce issues are very specific, and such cases involve a professional with extensive knowledge on the subject to handle these negotiations. Therefore, it is important to know how much expertise he or she has with mediation.

 

Decide Which Mediator is Best for You

Ultimately, choosing the right mediator can sometimes come down to chemistry. Divorce is never a fun situation, even when the circumstances are amicable. In this case, chemistry counts. Talking to different divorce mediators about the process can give you a feel for whether or not you will be a match.

About Oliver Ross

Oliver Ross, JD*, PhD founded Out-of-Court Solutions Inc. in 1995 and since then has mediated over 3,000 divorce and family matters. He is a select member of the Maricopa Superior Court Family Mediation roster