Divorce Mediation is the Least Stressful Divorce Method

Divorce Mediation is the Least Stressful Divorce Method

Divorces can be very stressful, especially when individuals are not separating on positive terms. Even in situations where the separation is amicable, certain factors, such as children or property, can lead to heated arguments, hurt feelings and more. Such issues tend to have a lingering effect and can cause tension and issues in the future. Divorce mediation has proven to be an effective means of reducing the stress levels throughout a divorce proceeding.


Mediation Defined

Mediation is a relatively court-free method for two parties to reach a divorce agreement. The mediation is conducted through meetings and can be completed by one mediator. Though lawyers are not necessary they may be used, however the mediator is there to serve as a non-bias party to help you and your spouse reach agreeable terms for all parties involved. The mediator is not a judge, so he or she cannot decide the case, and does not try to. Rather, through divorce mediation couples learn how to use cooperative problem solving to complete their divorce, and possible foster a peaceful relationship beyond the divorce proceedings.



There are a number of advantages to utilizing mediation for your divorce. Some of the most common benefits include:

  • It eliminates many court fees, making it less expensive.
  • The individuals divorcing have more control over the proceedings.
  • Parties tend to come to agreement faster, resulting in a speedy divorce.
  • The informal, private setting helps to ease nerves and tension, which makes the process more efficient.
  • If children are involved, it limits their exposure to the process.
  • Meetings are flexible and can be arranged around the parties’ schedules, rather than them having to change their schedules to meet court dates.

These are just a few of the possible benefits. Many individuals find these elements to be quite advantages in settling their divorces.


Reduced Stress

Many of the advantages of divorce mediation help to reduce the stressfulness of the process. Mediation helps to decrease financial and time commitments, which makes it less physically demanding. Through the process couples are encouraged to work together to reach an agreement, rather than working against each other as is often seen in court. This helps to keep heads clear and emotions in check. Such physically, mentally and emotionally positive factors help to reduce the stress of the situation while encouraging positive relations between you and your spouse.


Find the Right Mediator

One of the key elements to a successful divorce mediation is a qualified mediator. There are a few key things that you should look for and check before making a decision.

  • experience
  • track record
  • background
  • specialties

Most of this information can be discovered through a simple internet search. While you are on there, it may also be beneficial to check any client reviews to get a feel for how you might be treated. The most important thing to do is to meet with the mediator and see how comfortable you feel with him or her conducting your divorce mediation. Considering that you will be sharing many of the most intimate details of your life, you want to be sure that you select the best possible option.

About Oliver Ross

Oliver Ross, JD*, PhD founded Out-of-Court Solutions Inc. in 1995 and since then has mediated over 3,000 divorce and family matters. He is a select member of the Maricopa Superior Court Family Mediation roster