Is Divorce Mediation Is for You?

When a couple decides to separate, their first thoughts tend to be about hiring divorce attorneys. Sometimes a couple develops too much bad blood to where the only course of action is to divorce through contentious lawyers and the court system. However, many couples still get along reasonably well. They have simply grown apart.

Cases like these can benefit greatly from divorce mediation, which is the process of having a neutral third-party discuss various aspects of the separation with both spouses so that less arguing takes place in the court room. Here are instances where this may be best.


If you have no trust whatsoever in your ex, then you may have no choice but to have an attorney dig to see what is true and what is false. However, mediation typically works well when there some level of trust, even to a small degree, because part of the job of a mediator is make sure that all necessary documents and information is disclosed, resulting in fully informed decision-making for both spouses.

Parenting of Minor Children

Divorcing couples with minor children will need to develop a child custody arrangement. This becomes much easier if both parents agree that the other should get some time with the children. The key is for both parents to keep in mind the best interests of their children, instead of having lawyers or a judge determine that.


It often takes time to accept the eventuality of divorce instead of denying it. This is part and parcel of the grief process we all go through when faced with the loss of a significant relationship. Mediation, especially when conducted by a mediator with backgrounds in both law and psychology, is apt to further each partner’s passage through the grief process and ultimately to the acceptance stage.

Many couples have used mediation to restore some degree of trust, cooperatively co-parent minor children, and begin to accept divorce while also saving substantial time and money.